Question:
There is a very tangled matter that I need to ask the teacher for advice. My girlfriend and I have been together for three years. Only the first year was particularly sweet. After that, we didn’t have many interesting activities other than routine dates. Our current relationship is very boring and boring.
Then, since last year, my friend has been urging me to break up every once in a while. He said that my conditions are so good, are I afraid that I can't find him? If I can't find him, he will be responsible for introducing me.
My friend is much better than me. He has better looks and career than me. He has been single for three years since he broke up with his ex-girlfriend, but many girls are chasing him.
To be honest, I didn’t take his words to heart at first, but if he said it too much, it would inevitably be affected. So lately I've been hesitating a lot, wondering whether I should listen to him or not. If I listen to him, I can't make up my mind. Although being with this girlfriend is boring, I have been in a relationship for so long. Teacher, should I mention breaking up?
Answer:
Your question itself is not a big problem. It is just that the relationship between two people has faded and they are considering whether to end it. But what the teacher can't understand is why you should consider the opinions of your friends instead of your own needs when breaking up?
Although other people's opinions sometimes have the advantage of being clear to others, don't forget that a glass of water Only you know whether it is hot or cold when you drink it.
Whether you still want this girlfriend and whether you like her or not is what determines whether you want to break up with her or not. key.
Rather than "advice" from friends.
As for why your friend is so keen on encouraging you to break up, and even gives you an empty promise? Putting aside the three views expressed in the other party’s remarks, his purpose is nothing more than this:
Pull together to strengthen the friendship between you. Of course, it doesn’t matter what his purpose is for breaking up. The key is that the message you want to express after refining your question is actually very simple, that is, you don’t love her. Yes, I want to break up.
The so-called friends’ persuasion to break up is just an excuse you use to excuse yourself because you resist being the person who takes the initiative to dump the other person.
Dump her because others suggest you do so, rather than because you think about it yourself, so that you will feel less moral condemnation in your heart.
This also shows one thing in disguise, that is, the other party must have merit!
You The current state is a choice between a tree and a forest.
If you choose a tree, you already own this tree. There are still fruits on the tree, but the fruits are not very good.What suits your taste.
If you choose a forest, you may encounter a tree with golden apples inside, but it may also be full of thorns.
The teacher cannot make the decision for you whether to break up or not. He can only present the objective facts. The final decision depends on your own needs.
