There is a girl who likes a boy very much, but the boy has no feelings for this girl.
Originally he didn’t want to fall in love with her, but when the boy thought that after falling in love, he could end his single life of eating alone, shopping alone, and sleeping alone, he was a little shaken.
This situation is very common. From a psychological point of view, this boy is in a psychological state of seeking outwards at this moment, and this state needs to be relieved by others. In fact, it is lonely.
Of course, people have a social nature and an instinctive need for intimacy. There is no shame in admitting that you desire intimacy. There is nothing wrong with starting a relationship because of loneliness, but it is wrong to use loneliness as the only reason for falling in love.
Then if you are already in love, how do you judge whether you like the other person or just because you are lonely?
The easiest way is to get along first and see if you are willing to do it for her. , and work hard for your feelings.
The essence of loneliness is recreation and passing time. Just like playing games, it is purely for entertainment. Few people put their true feelings into playing games.
Would you change yourself for a game? No. In the same way, if in the process of getting along with you, every time a conflict occurs, you do not think about solving the problem but hope that the other party will change unilaterally. You think that the differences between the two are inherently destined and there is no way to change them. You even think that if you meet the next person, If people have been muddling along like this before, then there is a problem.
I know that in fact you just enjoy the feeling of being in love more, and you will give within a limit. If you give too much, you will feel distressed, as if After being bitten by a mosquito, the marks will disappear immediately after a brief itching.
So what does true love look like?
Actually there is no need to say too much about this, love will be expressed in various ways.
For example, every time you take the initiative to ask me on WeChat how to get along with her, and she doesn’t reply to the message, you will worry about the gain and loss. These high chances mean that you like her, want to pursue her, and want to get along well with her. Real love means wishing her well, being willing to sacrifice for her, and including her in your future plans.
There is a lyric that describes "loneliness and "like" very classicly: I don't miss you because I am lonely, but because I miss you. You are the only one who is lonely.
We often joke that being single is fun for a while, but the fact is: when you see others showing off in pairs, you really want to fall in love. .
If you haven’t been in love yet and you really want to start a relationship, it’s best to do it out of love rather than loneliness.Falling in love out of loneliness is mostly about falling in love with the atmosphere of love.
Although you are satisfied with this atmosphere and this pleasure, you will later find that you are wandering between leaving and staying, feeling like a besieged city. It is a kind of tasteless food and a pity to abandon. Feel.
